Waiting. I’ve spent a lifetime waiting. It’s a comfortable little rut with the perfect excuse for not getting the thing done.
I’m not waiting anymore.
If you want to be a part of something that I’m doing, then great. I need you and am grateful and glad.
If you want to help but have limited time, then say so. We’ll figure out a way for you to get involved with no future obligation once the project is complete. But do not take it on if you can’t finish it. No more open-ended promises.
If you thought you wanted to help, but changed your mind then cowgirl (or boy) up and say something. I need to move on and cannot wait for you anymore.
If you don’t want to be a part of it, then don’t placate me with excuses. Wish me well and get out of my way. I respect that so much more than well-intentioned promises that end up delaying me while I make plans and considerately wait for you to be available.
I’m not waiting anymore. It’s not because I’m mad at you. It’s because I finally realized that I don’t have the time to waste. I finally realized that I’m not doing myself or anyone else any good when I wait. All I’m doing is delaying getting the thing done.
Just like every single human being on the planet, I am the center of of my own universe. It’s rare and miraculous when we connect and help each other. It’s a great gift to step outside your own drives for a brief, shining period of time and do something for someone else. But don’t say you’re going to do it and then don’t.
The path to hell…
I need other people. I will treat you with as much respect, appreciation and support as humanly possible. That’s my nature, and truly what I feel when someone lends their considerable hands, talents and precious time. But, what I can’t do is wait for you anymore.
Susan Scot Fry
Update… What this really means is much, much more a change in my own actions than in anyone elses. I knew that when I wrote this post, though.
If I’m not waiting for anyone else, that means I’m taking responsibility for outcomes in a direct, active fashion. That means asking myself first if I can do the thing myself and, if not, is there someone else who can do it for me from whom I can get a reasonable commitment. Then, I have to follow up.
Taking personal responsibility doesn’t always mean doing it myself. But, it means ensuring that it gets done.