Back to school cartoons are starting to show up in the daily comics. Spring and early summer garden debris are showing through later summer growth, beckoning for a clean out. I’m working on Halloween and Christmas events. We’ve started to stockpile wood for the stove.
It’s still hot outside. It will be months before shorts are replaced by long pants. The afternoon beverage of choice will remain iced coffee for quite a while yet.
It’s the tween season. Awkward and full of possibilities. Still stubbornly stuck in its soon-to-be-former incarnation and gawkily prepping for the next. In order to make the most of What’s Next, I need to prep now. And, in order to make the most of What’s Now, I need to inhabit the moment.
A buddy calls it Mindful Planning. It’s the reconciliation of living for today and figuring out how to get where we’re going. For most of us, it’s much easier to sit and feel terrible about yesterday and to worry about tomorrow. That’s the comfort zone we are raised with. Breaking that pattern takes work.
Assuming a lack of genetic interference, physically moving from a tween to a teen is inevitable. We’re hard-wired for growth. Okay, for me, that physical growth is a bit more assertive, but I like being 6 feet tall. Is our pre-disposition to feel guilty and worried genetic or cultural? I personally believe that they are learned habits.
Abandoning guilt and worry for thoughtfulness and care may be key in our mental growth from tween toward adult. I experience much more clarity and feel peaceful and productive when I approach the task with thoughtfulness and care versus guilt and worry. It’s simple. Feel good = Able do more. Feel bad = Stuck spinning my wheels.
It’s not rocket science.
Happy Tween Season.
Susan Scot Fry
Update… Well, this generated some controversy. I shouldn’t be surprised at how many people are addicted to guilt and worry and vehemently justify the validity of those feelings.
This is going to sound priggish, but I’ll say it anyway. I’m very glad that I don’t suffer from guilt and worry as much.